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Get Comfortable with Being Uncomfortable

February 2, 2021-I’d like to start this post off by wishing my oldest nephew a very happy 17th birthday! Time flies and I couldn’t be more proud to be your auntie. I love you so much.

Quick, when was the last time you were uncomfortable? I mean really uncomfortable? I’m not talking about the Starbucks-not-getting-your-coffee-right type of uncomfortable, I’m talking about the real thing.  Have you ever had your back against the wall, no money in your account, bills piling up, and no work coming in? I have. Have you ever had to face every challenge on your own (personal and professional) with no help from anyone? I have. But guess what? Those are the days and experiences that make us. Those trials and tribulations make us who we are  and they have certainly made me the person I am today. If everything had have been handed to me, what would I have learned? I would have learned not to depend on myself. I would have learned that I can’t deal with the bad days and I may as well just throw in the towel.

So, when you face issues and problems are you going to throw in the towel or use it to wipe the sweat off your face and try again? I hope you’ll keep fighting, I hope you’ll keep going, and I hope when you hear NO, a thousand times in your writing life that you will steady yourself and your vision and confidently tell them, YES. Tell yourself that no matter what, you’re going to make it. Come hell or highwater, promise yourself that you will succeed and then work to get there. When everything seems to be going against you, remember that an airplane takes off against the wind, not with it. And remember, you have to present yourself in such a way that people don’t even feel right approaching you with bullshit. Wish them well and move on. Focus on your writing, your goals, your ambitions, and dreams. Don’t let outside distractions in. Allow yourself to be uncomfortable in your writing and your business, because then, you’ll find out what you’re made of. Start getting comfortable with being uncomfortable. Know who is going to give you everything you want? YOU.

Now go get it. X LLB


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When You’re Struggling…

October 25, 2019– We all struggle. Every single one of us struggles at something or at some point in our lives. Difficulty is part of the process so trust it. Could you imagine if everything was easy and just handed to you on a silver platter? Part of being a human is overcoming challenges. When we find a solution to our challenges we end up building confidence, trusting ourselves, and believing that we can do whatever we set our minds to. Here are three ways that you can help yourself if you’re struggling with an aspect in your writing career:

  1. Get out of your comfort zone. When things feel uncomfortable, that’s a really good indicator that you’re on the right track. Maybe it’s making that phone call or tracking down that distributor or writing while being vulnerable, whatever it is, make sure you do it because getting out of your comfort zone has the power to change the trajectory of your entire life. Try to do one thing a day that makes you uncomfortable and watch your life change.
  2. Put a timeline on it. There are some days that are rougher than others. When you’re having a tough time, put a timeline on feeling sorry for yourself. Give yourself five minutes at most to feel crappy about the situation (it’s important to recognize the bad so that we can appreciate the good) and then roll up your sleeves to start fixing it. Do you need to scrap the entire intro to your novel? Do you need to have that hard conversation with one of your employees?
  3.  Know that it will pass. “My mamma told me there’d be days like this and man, she wasn’t foolin.” Aerosmith sure nailed that on the head. The good news is that time marches on. Whatever you’re dealing with, just know it’s a moment in time…it will pass and then you’ll be on to the next thing. If it won’t matter in five years, don’t spend more than five minutes worrying about it. That’s a personal rule that I keep.

The point is, there is no success without struggle. Keep going, you’re doing great. X LLB